Life

Well, I think life is all about feelings. The way we express our feelings, the way we stand for how we feel. Don't you think so? 

Only if it was easy to say what we feel and why we feel so, Our life would have been much easier. It's really difficult for us to stand up and be ourselves cause we fear being judged, we fear to be different and being made fun of. 

I wish there could be a world where everybody should be able to talk about how they feel without having to feel guilty about "the way they feel."

No matter what a relationship is, it could be a relationship of a child with his/her family or husband-wife or any other relationship that exists. Anybody should not hide about how exactly they feel about "how things should be". Also, this could be only possible if the listener is mature enough to take whatever is to be revealed. Only if everybody starts understanding each other and they don't have to prove themselves superior to each other or to impress each other, the world would have been far a better place than it is. There is always this one fear we all live with how the other person will feel or react to their likes and dislikes. Nobody wants to be grouped or differentiated by others. It's not that we should stop differentiating, all together. Differences are all good in itself. It's just we are no one to decide which group after differentiation is better and which is inferior. We are no one to give that judgment neither we process the right parameters. And people should learn to not get panic and over-react to anything. I know people have their own insecurities but the source of these insecurities only arises from not being understood. People are really judgemental.

Only if it was possible for us to stop judging. 

People around rarely have conversations nowadays, they only have debates. They have to prove themselves to every other person they meet and if you don't people won't let you live.

This whole world is a system. Which works well for some and intoxicate many others. Well not getting into the systems as it is really complicated and has lots of controversial issues. 

I think in this circus where everyone is the ringmaster of their own lives. Just be happy in your own surroundings. Your every laugh counts and your every tear do. It's just that it does not matter to others but off-course to you. So, yeah live life to fullest live all your happy moments with lots of happiness and even your bad ones with grief. It's good to moan for some time and then embrace the left-over happiness. Enjoy every moment. Try being yourself though it could be difficult at times. Let's take it as to being yourself not always, but most of the time. You know just try it little by little. Also, be flexible while expressing yourself so that you are not offending somebody else who is doing his little to speak for him or herself.

We all grow up knowing and observing how the world around us works in various different ways and we choose some of those ways to live ours while rejecting some on the basis of how we feel. 

We all have somebody or someone to impress and someone to show them down. This sort of competition has ruined what we call a life without insecurities.

Let me share a story with you. 

There are two kids KID A and KID B. Both of them are told that they need to be best in their class. They have to be number one and always have to stand first in their class. Now, KID A always tops the class. He grows knowing that he is perfect. He gets lots of attention from friends and teachers. Good time and good to hear. Though in the long run when this kid will land up in a world where people are good in their own different ways and the horizon widens. There lives will be in mess. They might not be able to face loosing. They will start fearing to loose so much that every single defeat no matter how small will bring him under depression. His/Her learning abilities are completely zero. He fears to make mistakes.   

Now KID B is a person who can't keep up to his/her parent's or teacher's expectations. Every single time he failed, he was made realized he was worthless. KID B has actually lost his interests and is really very underconfident.

Can you see how competition seeps in your lives and ruins it? I hope you can understand. How dreadfully lives have become. 

We all run for a mere bubble of reputation in which we forget how to live and how to have fun.

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Success and improved Quality life

Let's start by asking the most common question. What is success?  

OK!!!

The most common definition of success is being able to earn a handsome amount of salary. Having a big house and being rich. 

Now, answer this simple question which might not be that common, Does anybody think of the work that we will be doing to earn that amount of salary. Usually, we imagine an eight hours job, still not clear about what exactly we will be doing in those hours. We start by looking for any job profile that might earn us money. We always imagine success by working for multiple hours. In short, success is equal to the number of monotonous hours we spend working that we don.t even enjoy. This is the time and success concept. Actually, this happens because we only see the success of the people and those successful people talking about their hard work. This is true but this is a half-truth. 

"Half-knowledge is always dangerous than no knowledge." 

Successful people work hard to thrive in success. In addition to this, they also find what they actually enjoy doing the most and what can they work upon without anybody else telling them to. They don't work because they have to, they work because they want to. They enjoy what they do without thinking that how much bread they are eaning. Money follows their path because they are content with the work they have done. They sell the work they themselves are truly satisfied with. Their success lies in the self-satisfaction. The real meaning of success is being the best of what you are capable of being. No- doubts the consequences remain similar. The person who is able to produce the best out of himself will automatically earn well. We have to be the best of ourselves, the best version of ourselves is what we call success. 

Now, lets us discuss the quality. Quality refers to peculiar (different to what is normal or expected) 

or essential character.  Having high standards and a level that nobody can match. Yes, the quality of success will directly lead to quality of life.

MIND SHIFTS THAT WILL IMPROVE QUALITY OF LIFE

Life is a race that is to be enjoyed while running on the right track. You cannot enjoy a healthy life while you are running on the wrong track, that is not at all meant for you to run. Everyone has one life and he or she should live it on their term and conditions. Everyone has a right to work at their own pace. Live your life and have fun. Find out what you can do the best. Realize where is your place and where would you be able to compete like a hero. "Don't compete for the race that is not meant for you to run".  Run a marathon that you will enjoy winning and will be worth winning. If you will keep running the wrong track, you will find yourself stuck and helpless. Your life would sound like a stagnant ship in the ocean who have nowhere to go. In short, it will lead to no growth and when we cannot see any growth around we feel depressed and unhealthy. Growth brings happiness and purity in life. 

Remove all the fears that you process. Thrive for success instead of avoiding failure. Don't be afraid to fail. Failure is the highest form of growth. Love to share your shortcomings and then proudly tell everyone that you are working to improve it. This what success actually is. The accomplishment of the aim and purpose of the best journey ever is "life" and the success of life is being able to live it. 

Further when you find out what is meant for you and what is the right track where you would love to run, then all you have to do is to believe hard in yourself in order to achieve it. You will face many failures but trust your gut and keep moving.

This whole procedure let you complete two three simple steps 

Inspiration: When you find out the career that is your fit.

Self-motivation: When you work like you are playing in the garden.

Training: Along with working you need to get yourself train in that skill also.

Live a life where you don't need to count the number of hours you have been working, instead you enjoy the number of hours you have been working. Working time is the best time of your day. 

Do, what you love. 

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Ways of living a quality life

Hey, guys.

Everyone wants to live a better quality of life. There might be a different meaning for the quality of life for every one of us. The ways I am gonna discuss here are the ones that worked for me. You can always choose the ones that suit you the best. So, let's start.

In a workplace where you have lots of pressure building up on internal grounds for performing well and where we are more prone to depression. The major cause of depression is when we experience stagnant ness in life.  Here are some ways to enjoy a  healthy and improved quality of life even within the pressure of performing well.

1) Keep learning at every moment:

When you keep learning new things you feel a strong sense of motivation. This helps you in acquiring an optimistic attitude in your life. You will stay happier and more focused. When you learn you can feel the growth within yourself. When we see ourselves stuck in one position and feel helpless to do anything that might help us grow, we usually feel depressed. In short, keep yourself busy. Learn small things, like

• Gardening: Seeing growth will make you happy. 
• Help a person: seeing other people happy because of you makes you happiest person.
• Cooking: Try making new dishes with your wife or with your mother. This will make your relations and your personal life a better place to live in. 
• And many more things.......

2) Read Books:

Books teach us a lot. Reading self-improvement books actually help us to grow. If you are not a book type try inculcating this habit by reading books of genres that you love. It could be anything varying from romance novels like "The fault in our stars" to mystery books written by "Enid Blyton". These are the books that I have actually read and also have helped me to read some self-help books like

• THE SECRET
• THE KITE RUNNER
• HOW THE SECRET CHANGED MY LIFE
• RICH DAD AND POOR DAD 
• THE MIRACLE MORNINGS 

These books are really very helpful. They teach you how to stay happy and ask for anything from the universe that you want. From getting your dream job to having a happy family. All the tricks that nature actually follow are given in these books. How the secret changed my life is highly recommended. Do go throw it.

Now, after these learnings, we also need to revise them and feel happy about them.

We can do it in two different ways

3) Write a dairy: 

Writing a dairy really helps a lot. Make your diary pretty enough for yourself to read it. Keeping it clean will teach us creating wonders out of the mess. Maintain the good quality of your diary. Put pictures wherever required and sticky notes will also be helpful. You can make it as colorful as you want or as simple as you want. It's your personal diary. Write down your goals, dreams or any kind of learnings you had in a day. Re-read them, speak them aloud. Believe them. You will definitely achieve your goals while learning so many useful things. 

Make a habit of keeping a diary and pen with you.

4) Record your learnings.

You can also record Whatever you write in your diary. By doing so, you will also be able to listen to it whenever you are not in the mood of reading something. Listening only makes you believe stronger. You can listen to your recorded voice while driving a car, or while cooking.

5) Share your learnings.

When you share your learnings with someone it actually makes you feel good. Make a habit with your couple of friends that whenever you find some time in or out of the office, you all have to share one thing that you learned and was valuable to you. This how you might improve upon your knowledge as many people might have different things to say also it will lead to healthy relations among your colleges that will lead to a healthy working environment.

Tips: You can talk about your favorite things or about the meaningful lessons that you learned and want to share or about your strengths and weakness. You will get to know about your strengths better and always try to work upon your weaknesses along with polishing your strengths.

6) Try various different things:

Always keep trying various different things. You will get to know more about yourselves. The strangest thing is that we ourselves have no clear idea about what do we love and what we really enjoy the most. Try something adventurous. Love the people on the way. Make new friends and have total fun. Life is all about trying new things and exploring true meaning to happiness.

7) Love your family:

No matter what the case is loved your family and be nice and generous to them. Share your feelings with them. Make a culture to understand. Don't just make people understand yourself but also try to understand them and their feelings. There should be no place for malice. Having a happy family greatly affects the quality of life one lives. 

 

At last but not least drink lots of water. Stay blessed and happy.

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CHILD FRIENDLY CITY

How to improve the quality of life in developing countries? This question might have haunted many of us. How we can have a safe and healthy environment for our kids and for ourselves. In this blog post, I will be discussing one such way to improve our lives. 

To start with let's start by answering the question. We can have improved quality of life by having CHILD-FRIENDLY CITIES. 

YES having a child-friendly city can greatly improve our lifestyle or our city's lifestyle altogether. Now, this is only possible if, each child feels safe and secure in the city premises. The feeling of oneness. The feeling of togetherness. Do you like it when we see some kids going to school with bags and others going to pick garbage as ragpickers? Roads, that are filled with the kids begging on every other signal, should be filled with children who are going to educational institutions for learning how to develop the country and how to live a better life.

Won't that will bring a healthy life to us.

Have you ever wondered why children fall prey to bad or ill-habits? The answer is they visualize differences. They see different people, they see children of their ages going for beggary and being beaten up at different eateries. They witness all these scenarios which lead to a very bad impression on their minds.


Now, their ill habits make them do all things that harm their health and the environment. To prevent this we need to take some good steps towards saving humanity.
Let's start with finding why we see children begging?

Have we ever wondered what are the causes and effects of beggary? The majority of us might think of answers like drugs, mafia, and poverty. Believe me, these reasons constitute around 20 percent of all the reasons behind beggary.

According to beggars in India statistics, there are 4 lakhs beggars. Out of which 3 lakhs are child beggars and are forced to beg. The major reason comes out to be a habit. Yes, they are habitual of begging. They find it easy to make money in this way. Even if a family can afford to send their kids to school, they won't do that. Children refuse to go to schools because they enjoy making money on roads. The money they get from begging is either used for buying drugs for themselves or in some other wrong deeds.

Begging has many bad effects on the child. Some of the obvious ones are like children grow beyond their ages and lose their innocence. They fall back in bad criminal activities which only leads to an increase in the number of crimes in a city and country overall.

Now, if we are talking about crime. Let me tell you that begging is a crime in India, according to one of the judicial laws which have already been passed by the government but it lacks its proper implementation. Now, let's discuss how to stop begging in India. A very nice initiative has been taken by Har Hath Kalam India Association in Patiala. It's an NPO (a non-profit organization). It's working towards eradicating child begging bringing in improved education systems and providing access to these underprivileged kids. It's founder Mr. Harsh Kothari is a young endeavoring entrepreneur who passed out bachelors from Thapar Institute of engineering and technology in 2015 batch. He, firmly believes that the idea of a child-friendly city should be advanced to many more cities.

So, now we know how to deal beggars in India? Stop giving alms to these kids. These kids need something else. They need someone to make them visualize the wider picture. According to the detailed survey from Har Haath Kalam. These kids lack non-cognitive skills. This organization is working on eradication of child begging by bringing behavioral changes in these kids and their community.

Now the question arises how we can help in having a child-friendly city. We can get connected with this NGO and can help it grow in our cities. We can sponsor them either. They have a very unique way to deal with their sponsors. They don't ask them money in the bulk instead they ask them to pay 100 rupees per month regularly. This helps them with their proper functioning and also 100 rupees per month is quite a manageable thing. This is known as their 100 rupees campaign. They also have some other ways like they have their 1 rupee campaign for schools. Every kid pays 1 rupee to Har Hath Kalam which they collect from the school at the last of every month. 

WELL DONE to this organization which is trying hard to improve the quality of life. Until now they have changed more than 150 lives. I hope more children to join the list.

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